If you accuse your partner of cheating on you and they respond with one of these five sentences, they are either cheating or have cheated on you.
Presenting your spouse with proof of their adultery, no matter how minor or substantial, can trigger a worrisome pattern of manipulation and gaslighting. They cause you to reevaluate your ideas and convictions.
They normally say the following five things:
1. “How can you not trust me?”
They may respond by blaming you of not having faith in them when you inquire about their whereabouts or discuss the unsettling text messages you discovered on their phone. This strategy is intended to place the responsibility on you by implying that you are trivial or too suspicious for raising the prospect of infidelity.
Realise that this is just another way for your spouse to absolve themselves of responsibility in the event of an affair, and that having an honest discussion is perfectly acceptable.
2. “It doesn’t mean anything”
Suppose you questioned him why he hadn’t told you about his after-work meetings with a female coworker and you discovered this information. He may dismiss your emotions by claiming it’s meaningless. So why did he keep it a secret if he doesn’t mean anything?
3. “You made me cheat”
It’s possible that your partner is ready to assign blame rather than accept accountability. He or she can put all the blame on you, saying you’re cold or don’t show them love.
This is often done to make it seem like you are the one who committed the adultery rather than the adulterer.
On the other hand, your spouse might genuinely think that being apart from you has made them more likely to cheat. If you hear this typical response, keep in mind that your partner chose to cheat on purpose, and that decision was not your fault.
4. “I love you; I don’t love him or her”
They are frank about their infidelity here. In an attempt to comfort you, your partner may pretend that they had no feelings for the other person they had an affair with. They should always own up to the fact that they betrayed your confidence, so maybe that’s true. Furthermore, being attracted to someone sexually is still a sensation.
5. “And what about you when you…”
Accused cheaters frequently employ projection to take on the role of the accuser.
Your spouse may bring out previous instances in which you erred or behaved badly; they may even suggest that you are now acting equally when it comes to inappropriate activity. You could feel compelled to defend yourself as a result.
He or she tries to mislead you into thinking that you’re the one who committed the error.
Although you can forgive someone who has cheated on you, it’s imperative to stay away from a relationship with someone who does not just take responsibility for their actions and refuses to ask for forgiveness.
